October 30, 2018
It’s been about 2 weeks since my hysterectomy and I am healing well. I am still a little sore and puffy, but I am definitely over the worst of it!!! I still have pains, but they are also similar to the pains I have had almost every day dealing with endometriosis. Even though that is not cured from my hysterectomy, the adenomyosis and fibroids are. I wasn’t very nervous for my surgery until about the day before. I have been wanting this for so long, I was mostly excited to finally get this done. My family was there for me, helping ease my anxiety, and fulfilling the duties Aily would have normally done.
My mom bought me my baby, and I brought him to the hospital with me, and he wore my necklace with Aily’s ashes while I was in surgery. My dad took two days off work to help take care of me, the day of surgery and the day after. My dad drove me to the hospital and waited with me until they took me back into surgery. It was pretty funny, prior to surgery, I had to take a pregnancy test, which is pretty standard, but the nurse took one look at my dad, and whispered to me, that she was leaving the cup in the bathroom, and to leave it there when I was done. Ha ha ha, I am sure if I was pregnant, he would have figured it out when they cancelled the hysterectomy!! Then what was even funnier, after surgery when they were giving me discharge instructions, they told me to wait 6 weeks to have sex. I looked over at my dad who was visibly uncomfortable and he was looking around the room, trying not look like he could hear her (even though he was less than 5 feet away from the nurse). Talk about awkward, for both of us! My dad is such a trooper.
Thankfully, I was able to go home that night and didn’t have to stay overnight in a hospital. After spending so much time in hospitals this past year with Aily, that was the last place I wanted to be. My mom who is a nurse, took care of me when I got home, she cooked me food and made sure I was comfortable through the night. My brother also helped take care of me and even bought me a mini fridge so I didn’t have to walk too far to get my water and iced tea. Two days after my surgery, my parents went out of town for a much-needed vacation. Two days after that, my brother went out of town for work, but I wasn’t left alone. My good friend Jessi came into town for 9 days to help take care of me, the house, and the dogs. I had lovely visits from my friends Allison, Heather, Aliesha, and Steve. I want to thank all my wonderful friends and family who sent funny gifts, necessities to make recovering a lot easier, flowers to brighten my day, and pre-made meals; they were life savers!!! I am forever grateful and so very very lucky!!! This was definitely a time when I missed Aily the most (okay, let’s be real, I miss her so much every day), but I am so glad to have had so many people there to help me through it.
The baby from my mom, I told her how Aily used to always buy me one after surgery! I would have given anything to have her with me that day.
Past letters from Aily after previous surgeries!!! God, I miss her sense of humor!!!
Since tomorrow is Halloween, I wanted to add this cute photo of us as kids in our Halloween costumes.